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Awesome Things Are On The Way

New year, new start.

I am well aware that it isn’t the start of a new calendar year but last week I had the “pleasure” of turning 35. I am officially in my mid-30s. YIKES. I had to knock off about two inches of dust from the blog and I’m sorry for being AWOL. The flares got worse and felt like I was in a hole and now matter how hard I tried, I kept falling farther and farther down the hole. It became easier to overlook the computer the to open the lid. It because easier to pretend like I had nothing to say because honestly I had nothing to say. To anyone. I had completely shut myself off from everyone. My family. My friends. Everyone. Its like for a period of time I seized to exist except for breathing, throwing up, and being in pain. I had become encased in a shell because of battling life with chronic illness. That was my whole existence. And to sum it up:

IT SUCKS.

And you know what, I am done. D-O-N-E.

They say the first step to making a change is to admit that you have a problem. I have a problem. I have been barely existing in this sleep deprived blank state for far too long. I have watched too many things pass me by. I went to Disney in September and it was the most alive that I have felt in I don’t know how long (posts will be coming soon sharing all of those glorious details). I planned to get right on it as soon as I got back from Disney but this was the course of action (and I only wish I was exaggerating).

First, I got the typical post-vacation flare.

Then as soon as that lifted, I fell down our back stairs. My face broke my fall. It was bad. One minute I was at the top of the stairs putting my dog on her lead and the next thing I know I am face first in the first crying “ow, ow, ow” with blood streaming down my face, black eyes, scraped shoulder, knees, and elbows. It was not a pretty site.

As soon as that pain lifted, I got hit with this nasty respiratory infection that has not gone away despite antibiotics which require another call to the doctor tomorrow but I am calling it.

Enough is enough.

I am ready to make some life changes with my chronic illness. I am reclaiming my life. Yes, I am sick. It is a part of who I am but it does not have to be ALL that I am. This is my time. I have sat in the dark too long.

I deserve more. More importantly, my family deserves more.

I am stoked. I’ve got my planner ready. I’ve got lists, supplies, and even ordered some camera equipment to hopefully add some videos in here and there.

Change is coming people.

I hope you are as excited as I am. I am crying as I type this because I am so excited and ready. It is time to reclaim my life with chronic illness and it is going to be awesome!

More details to come!

Stock photo by Turquoise & Palm
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Regrouping: A Quick Life & Blog Update

A Quick Life & Blog Update

Before I give you a few blog updates, I just wanted to share a quick story I posted on my personal Facebook wall yesterday:

I had an interesting experience of Walmart of all places today. As many of you know, I spend the majority of my day house-bound if not bed-bound. This has been a little better week so today, I was able to leave the house for the second time this week (look out world!). As I was getting ready to check out, I noticed an older lady behind me with her cane in her cart and she just looked tired. I told her to go ahead of me and she just looked so relieved. As she unloaded her cart of TV dinners and various types of juice, she proceeded to tell me that she had finally had someone come over to sit with her husband who has severe Alzheimer’s and dementia but only had a short amount of time. As she unloaded her cart, she said that she was no longer able to cook full meals like she would like because she’s afraid of leaving the stove plugged in as she’s afraid her husband would turn it on and cause damage. She was constantly worried about him running off or getting himself hurt. You could tell that it had been quite some time since she had had any time for herself. It broke my heart. As she was checking out, I overheard her talking to the cashier. She told a little bit of what was going on and how she was so thankful that I had allowed her to go ahead of me in line and how much it helped her. She said there were so few nice and courteous people left in the world any more and how thankful, blessed, and overcome with gratitude she was. All because I let her go in front of me in line at Walmart. My hips were throbbing and I was in so much pain but something in my heart told me that she needed to go before me. Once she told me her story, it took everything I had not to break down. The most simple thing can make the biggest impact in someone else’s day. I’m not sharing this as a pat on the back to me but as a reminder to myself to do it more often. You never know how much a simple act of kindness can change someone’s day (or life).

It was definitely a very powerful and moving experience. One of those types of experiences where you feel like you need to take your shoes off because you are standing on sacred ground. God gave me such a powerful reminder today that life is so much bigger than me and even when I feel like I am drowning in my own problems, there are always people suffering more than I am. My husband came sympathize with her more than I can on the struggles of being a caregiver but before she left the store, I just wanted to chase her down and give her a huge hug. Then I realized she may have thought I was some kind of major creepo. Maybe I should have done it anyway. Sometimes its the most simple things that are the most important.

With that being said, I wanted to post a quick life and blog update. I really want to get back to the roots of A New Kind of Normal. I thought last year was hard but this year has proved to be even worse and I have felt so lost. I felt like I have just wandered in circles. I’ve tried to come back to posting but each time I’ve done so without a plan in mind so in all of my posts, its apparent that I am just wandering in circles and that is SO not what I want for this space. I want A New Kind of Normal to be a place of inspiration, encouragement, support, and most of all empowerment but in order for that to happen, I first need to feel inspired, encouraged, and empowered.

I am going to take the next week and a half off from blogging in order to get myself organized and my content structured so that this blog can go back to being what it was made to be. I am going to be reading, researching, and finally putting all those blogging boards on Pinterest to good use! I am also in the process of renovating our office/guest room/beauty room so I will have a space where I can truly feel inspired so that also has me really excited! There will definitely be a big reveal when everything is ready!

Things here at A New Kind of Normal will kick back up in May. Sharing Our Spoons will be starting up again so May 3rd will be the first post where we can share our goals for the month. Check-ins will take place the first Tuesday of every month as a way that we can support one another to be the healthiest versions of ourselves possible on all fronts. I am also restarting sharing the stories of our fellow spoonie warriors as a part of Sharing Our Spoons which will be featured once a month so if you are interested in being interviewed and sharing your story, please shoot me an email!

My goals are to post four times a week with Tuesdays being directly chronic illness/health related; Wednesdays will be Chronic Style days; Thursdays will be geared more towards home and family life; and Fridays will be focused on faith and emotional health. As you can see, I really want to hone in on this idea of holistic health and taking care of ourselves as a whole. When you are chronically ill, so many times there is always the bulk of focus placed on our physical health when there is so much more to us than that. I want A New Kind of Normal to become a thriving community of the most bold and vivacious spoonies anyone have ever met.

I am excited and already feeling empowered just by writing this post and I am hoping that you understand and that you too will feel excited and empowered about what is coming ahead. While I will not be posting here until the first of May, I can still be found on social media (Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter).

I am now also on Snapchat (@anewjamee) but I am still trying to get that one figured out! If you have any tips on getting the hang of it, please let me know! And friend me:

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I hope this post finds you all doing well! In the next few weeks, if there is anything that I can be praying for  you about or helping you with, please let me know! We can become stronger, inspired, and empowered together! I love you all and I truly mean that!

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Gift Guide for Bloggers 2015

A New Kind of Normal - Gift Guide for Bloggers 2015 Edition

The last post in this year’s Gift Guide series is a Gift Guide for Bloggers. I’ve been blogging for over eight years now (which makes me feel REALLY old) so I’ve learned a thing or two about what bloggers might appreciate to find in their stocking on Christmas morning (please don’t go back and look at some of the posts from the really early years – it may get a little scary). Let’s just step away from that for now and talk shop.

When you have a beloved blogger to shop for, it can seem a little overwhelming at first especially if you yourself are not a blogger. You have no idea what SEO is and why its so important and CSS and HTML look like some secret code but its not as hard as you think to shop for your beloved blogger.

 

Let’s talk planners.

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Something every blogger needs is a great planner. Some people really love doing everything online and using tools like Evernote and Google Drive to stay content ideas organized (especially since they can be used across multiple devices) or even blog plugins like CoSchedule or the WordPress Editorial Calendar in order to outline a post schedule. I love using Evernote and CoSchedule* is my new BFF but there is something about pen and paper that my brain needs to stay organized.

Starting at the upper left corner and moving in clockwise motion, these are some of the most popular planners on the market: the Erin Condren Life Planner, the Plum Paper Planner, the Passion Planner, and the Create 365 The Happy Planner (which I think is the newest on the market). In addition to using planners to stay organized, there has suddenly become a recent trend to not only keep track of your schedules and to-do lists in your planners but to go hog-wild decorating while you are at it. If you do a search on Etsy for “planner stickers,” you will see pages and pages (and pages) of all types of varieties of stickers and embellishments to keep your planner not only organized but beautifully decorated as well. You can also find supplies at craft stores like Michael’s and Hobby Lobby and I’ve seen things even start to trickle into the Dollar Tree (which is where I pick up most of my supplies). Think of it as a modern day “Pimp My Planner” instead of “Pimp My Ride” (I am really showing my age now aren’t I?). There are even oodles of Facebook groups dedicated to planner decorating. I personally use the Erin Condren Life Planner and I do enjoy doing some simple decorating using washi tape and organizational stickers but on the scale of 1-10 of being a simple planner user versus a mega planner decorator, I probably fall somewhere in the middle. I’ll do a separate post on that.

The only one of these planners that doesn’t lend itself as easy to the decorating trend is the Passion Planner but in its place, it offers a uniqueness that really focuses on goal setting and creating step by step guides to achieving those goals (even including pages for mind and bubble maps).  Another cool thing about the Passion Planner is that you can download a couple of pages of the planner to try to see if you like it before ordering or you can download the entire planner for free and then take it to your choice of stores, such as Staples or Office Max, to have it bound which I think is a pretty amazing option.

There are also all kinds of ways to build your own planner with free printables (Pinterest is loaded with them) and you can even find planner printables that are blogging specific. If you don’t want to purchase a planner as you aren’t sure what your blogging loved one might prefer there is always the option of purchasing a gift card or you can create a basket full of goodies such as a cute binder, nice pens, and fun decorating and organizational items.

 

Let’s talk books.

 

Other gift options for your blogging loved one include books on blogging. I have read 3 out of the 4 of these shown (and I am really hoping to get my hands on #4 really soon!). Just like above, I will start in the upper left corner and work my way around clockwise.

If your loved one is just starting out with blogging or is a seasoned blogger that wants to up his or her game, I highly recommend 31 Days to Build A Better Blog (affiliate link). It has been listed on my Blogging Resources page for ages because it is that good. I went through the book the first time with a group of bloggers with SITS and it totally changed my blogging game. I am actually planning on going back through it starting January 1 since 2015 was kind of an off-year with blogging because of the what felt like one health crisis after another this year so I really want to start 2016 off on the right foot (I would love to have you join me!).

I cannot say enough amazing things about the book Blog Design for Dummies and I won’t linger on it too long since I did write a complete review of the book. I know the author, Melissa Culbertson, personally and she is AMAZING and runs an amazing blog called Blog Clarity and teaches a variety of amazing courses so I would recommend anything that she puts out as a gift idea for your blogger loved one.

The next book is the one that I am dying to get my hands on for 2016 – The Badass Blog Planner by Sarah Morgan. Per the book’s description:

Packed with over 60 worksheets, this one-year planner will help you review the past year and hatch a plan to improve your online presence. It includes worksheets to evaluate and plan blog content, social media posts, products and services, email newsletters, marketing, advertising, your budget, and website design. No more late-night post idea panic or stressing over social media! You’ll take action with the confidence to create compelling and shareable content, promote your brand, organize your website, set goals for growth, plan product launches, and feel excited and inspired all year long.

Sounds like just what any blogger needs to start the year off right, don’t you think? This book doesn’t take the place of a traditional planner but would work wonderfully in conjunction. I use my Life Planner to obviously keep my family life managed as well as my blogging but this takes it up to a whole other level. Santa, if you are reading this, I would really love to find this under the tree!

The last book I am recommending is called Blog, Inc: Blogging for Passion, Profit, and to Create Community by Joy Deangdeelert Cho. I have already read through this book once and plan on reading through it again next year. It is another book that is great for a beginner but will also help take a seasoned blogger up to the next level with their blogging, especially if they would like to start running their blog more like a business and make a career out of blogging. It is packed full of great and useful information and written in a way that helps you put that information straight into practice.

There are a lot of other great books on blogging available (I have some that I read myself on my Blogging Resources page) but obviously I cannot list them all here. If your blogger loved one prefers reading on a Kindle (or using the Kindle app), a Kindle Unlimited gift subscription would be a great idea so that he or she could have access to all the amazing books on the market.

 

Let’s talk Conferences & Classes

If you really want to get your loved one a big gift and your budget allows it (and they have expressed interest in it before), gifting a trip to a blogging conference is another great option. Bloggy Bootcamp is a great one day conference offered in various cities throughout the year and it is only $75! This was my first conference experience and I loved every minute of it. The 2016 schedule is not yet posted but you can always create your own gift voucher and wrap it up for your loved one and they can choose which location they would like to attend once the schedule is posted!

Type A Conference is another great blogging conference option. It started as one three day conference usually held in Atlanta or Charlotte but in efforts to make it easier on attendees to travel for the conference, they now have a Type A Conference West in Santa Fe and Type A Conference East at Disney. DISNEY! Santa, are you hearing me? Disney! And it just just happens to fall right after my birthday. If Santa doesn’t pull through on this, I know what I’ll be saving up for for my birthday! I went to Type A Conference in 2013 and had a great experience and would love to go again. Who’s coming with me?

And last but not least, there are tons of e-courses and online training seminars that would also make awesome Christmas gifts for your beloved blogger.

As I mentioned before, Melissa over at Blog Clarity offers a variety of course with many of them being self-paced so you don’t have to worry about course dates. I have taken Content Brew* (which teaches you how to plan and create fresh content and equips you with tools on how to organize and share content) and Media Kit Smash* (which teaches you how to make a professional media kit to work with brands and professionals) and Pinning Perfect* (which will dig into strategies for driving traffic to your blog from Pinterest and build followers) are both next on my to-do list.

The Nectar Collective which is headed up by another Melyssa is another great resource for classes and seminars to help your beloved blogger get down to business and keep their numbers rising. In addition to paid courses, she also hosts free webinars so that is a great thing to keep an eye out for. One class that I took that I greatly benefited from and highly recommend is Social Media Superhero which only costs $27,

Gift Guide for Bloggers 2015 - A New Kind of Normal

These are just a few of my ideas of things that I put together for the Gift Guide for Bloggers so you can be on the lookout for when shopping for your beloved blogger! The best part about shopping for a blogger? A lot of these things can be bought online at the last minute! December 24th sign him or her up for a course, create a nice pretty gift voucher showing that you are sending them to this course they’ve been wanting to take (Canva.com is great for that – they even have templates!), and pop it into a pretty box and BOOM. You’re all done!

Do you have any bloggers on your shopping list or are you a blogger and have an idea about what needs to be added to the list?

Disclosure: Any link marked with an * refers to an affiliate link.

P.S. Have you checked out the Gift Guide for Beauty Lovers Giveaway yet? I keep adding to the box so I’m not sure how I’m going to get the thing to close! You’d better go check it out! It’s almost time to draw a winner!