Once you travel the road of infertility and adoption, Mother’s Day changes for you. Not that you are no longer faithful for your mother but for some, it seems to be one day where you feel like you are wearing a scarlet IF on your shirt. You are surrounding by women celebrating the honor of being a mom while you patiently (or not-so-patiently) wait for your chance. Just three years ago, I spent the church service crying in the bathroom wondering if I was ever going to get that chance.
So today I would like to say thank you and celebrate ALL the amazing women in my life! I am incredibly blessed to have a mom that is also my best friend.
A sister who, through all the twists and turns of life, is always there for me.
Strong women of faith in my family who have served as role models throughout my life.
Sisters in Christ who have lifted me up in prayer so many times and have been there through each surgery and treatment with a word of encouragement and a hug.
Bloggy friends who have become IRL friends and though miles separate us, there is a bond so strong that it feels like they are just down the street.
For each and every one of you, I am thankful!
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Beautiful posts this week, lovely words – your journey has brought you to such a good place xxxx
Great post. It’s not until recently, having someone in my family close to my age, that I gave IF much thought. I never wanted children so I never really thought about it in terms of myself but talking with a very close friend of mine who is IF one day about exactly what makes one IF that I realized that I myself am IF. I can actually get pg as far as the fertilization part but, for a few different medical reasons, I cannot carry a baby to term…not even to preemie. I still don’t want to have children if my own, but somehow, now that I know the choice is not actually mine, I am not too happy about it. And then it was with further thinking that I realized that I always tell people proudly that I am adopted but I never gave any thought to the fact that meant my own mother is IF. My parents made sure I knew from a very young age that I was adopted and that there was nothing wrong with, but there were never any conversations on how my mom is IF. I remember one time asking my mom why they adopted me and she just said it was cause she couldn’t get pregnant herself. She said it very matter of factly, like it was no big deal, and being a child I just accepted that answer and never questioned it again. She has never talked about what it was like, except for a few problems with the first attempted adoptions, but nothing about the journey to that point of adoption. Now that I have more insight into IF I am going to talk to her about it someday soon and tell her how proud I am of her. Being able to be a part of this community on the fringe has really helped me learn a lot about the IF journey and I thank you all for letting me gain some if your wisdom.
A big hug and thank you to all the women out there in my life who have helped and supported me throughout my life, and also to all you out there, on your own step of the IF journey, thank you for being as strong as you are, for sharing this problem with the world so that we may work towards better solutions and for letting us all in to the most private times of your life so that we may learn and pass that knowledge unto others.
We all do something motherlike for someone in our lives, so instead of saying happy mother’s day…I seat Happy Women’s Day! cause in some way we all rock and that helps everyone!