In just under 5 months from now (my post is a few days late), I turn 35. THIRTY-FIVE. I didn’t have too big of a melt down when I turned 30. It was just another number. Just another birthday but 35?! I will officially be in my mid-30’s and that makes me feel . . . old!
So before I start to feel old, I have a couple things I want to accomplish before I hit my midlife crisis. Fun and amazing things. Time to conquer the impossible. I have allowed chronic illness to steal too much of my time but I’m taking it back and I’m going to make the most of it. Of course five months isn’t a lot of time, so I’m all about small yet attainable goals so when my birthday comes I can give myself a big high five and say, “You did it girl” and celebrate with a banana split and a new lipstick (or two . . . or five!).
So here are the 5 things I want to check off my to-do list before I turn 35:
1- Go horseback riding.
I have always loved horses and it has been way, way too long since I have had a nice, long trail ride. Granted, my hips probably won’t like me for it the next day or two but my spirit with thank me. My spirit is longing for fresh air, companionship of friends, and the gentle connection between horse and rider and the soothing clippity-clop of the hooves as we trot along the riverside trail. The fact that the trails run next to the river make me that even more excited! Last time I took I real horse back ride, I was on a farm in Australia and it was amazing. Two of my dreams I had written down in my senior book that I wanted to accomplish was to own a truck (I wanted yellow but I got black – which I like better) and to own a horse. I don’t necessarily see owning a horse in my future anytime soon but I would love to make interacting with horses a more common occurrence. One of my Saving My Spoons goals this month was to begin volunteering at a local animal rescue but maybe volunteering with the horses is more my speed. There is a lot of great research on the benefits of equine therapy. Time to weigh my options.
2- Go River Kayaking.
We live less than 5 miles away from a beautiful river greenway. I spent many hours during my college years studying for finals (probably getting sunburned) on the rocks in the middle of that river. We’ve taken Abby and the dogs for hikes and we’ve taken Abby to play on the playground since she could walk. We have our family pictures taken there. I want to go horseback riding along the rivers edge but the one thing I want to do IN the river is to go kayaking. I’m not talking white water, crazy kayaking. I am talking lazy day, floating down the river kayaking. I have been open ocean kayaking in the Pacific when I was in New Zealand and it was amazing. There is just something about being in the water that is amazing. I’ve lived here for 17 years and I’ve never floated down the river. Its time for that to change.
3- Read 8 books.
Reading has been something that has been shamefully low on my priority list and that is definitely something that I need to correct. I got a new Kindle Fire when they were on sale the other week and I went a little crazy buying some new books. On my list so far (in no particular order): God is Able* by Priscilla Shirer, Story Story: How I Found Ways to Make A Difference & Do Work I Love* by Kola Olaosebikan, You Are A Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness & Start Living An Awesome Life* by Jen Sincero, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo, iBlog:Everything You Need to Know About Blogging from 30 To Bloggers* by Amy Stults et als, iBlog Pro: Taking Your Blog to The Next Level by Amy Stults et als, , and How to Be A Good Mommy When You’re Sick: A Guide to Motherhood with Chronic Illness** by Emily Graves, PhD. I have even more on my waiting list. Maybe I’ll turn into a reading machine! I just 8 books in 5 months was good starting point.
4- Take Traveling Red Dress Pictures.
There is this amazing blogger known as The Bloggess and if you have never read her blog, you should pause, open a new tab, and bookmark her site to go visit later. Emphasis on later – LOL. Several years ago, she started the Traveling Red Dress Project. Here are her words on why she started it:
I want, just once, to wear a bright red, strapless ball gown with no apologies. I want to be shocking, and vivid and wear a dress as intensely amazing as the person I so want to be. And the more I thought about it the more I realized how often we deny ourselves that red dress and all the other capricious, ridiculous, overindulgent and silly things that we desperately want but never let ourselves have because they are simply “not sensible”. Things like flying lessons, and ballet shoes, and breaking into spontaneous song, and building a train set, and crawling onto the roof just to see the stars better. Things like cartwheels and learning how to box and painting encouraging words on your body to remind yourself that you’re worth it
I won’t be wearing the same traveling red dress but I will be wearing a red dress and there will be pictures. Ridiculous, over the top pictures because I am worth it. I want to feel beautiful, confident, and glamorous. Can I feel just as beautiful and confident in my pajamas? Absolutely. Every day I am becoming more confident in the body that I once thought hated me but the pictures wouldn’t be nearly as fun. Sometimes we need that chance to wear a bright red ball gown with no apologies.
5- Complete my own blog redesign.
I know it doesn’t seem like that long ago, I had my blog redesigned but something never feels quite right. For years, my designs have always been created by someone else and I think its time I took my design into my own hands. This week I have felt a resurgence of passion for this blog that I haven’t felt in a long time. I want to step things up. I want to dig deeper. Pour all of my heart and soul into creating a place that we can all come together, share our journeys, our successes and our failures, our excitement and our heartache. I want a place where a community of awesome people who just happened to be diagnosed with a chronic illness (or two or ten) can find inspiration, empowerment, and support in living boldly, fiercely, and vivaciously in spite of our illnesses. I want to make this place not just a blog or a website but a home and it needs a little sprucing up. It needs life and some boldness. Maybe a plant or two. Is it a big undertaking? Absolutely. Is there there the chance that I could fail miserably? Absolutely. Is it worth the risk? Absolutely.
Do you currently have a bucket list? What are some things you want to get crossed off by your next birthday?
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**Disclosure: Book was sent to me to read for the purpose of review. This definitely at the top of the list and I will be doing a full post-review. Can’t wait to dig in!